I have been thinking about all the time i had spent writing the few chapters of my story, i really enjoyed it. but when i look at the time spent there and the things i should have done but didn't do, i feel really bad. i really think sometimes that i should just stop writing even when it feels good to do the right things y'know.
can you help me adjust my time and give me advices from your experience...

Do the other stuff first, then write. If it's a question of priorities, rearrange your to do list in a way that makes sense to you.

Time spent writing isn't a waste, but if you're not writing for a living there are simply other things that will come first. For me writing comes after my obligations but before my hobbies. That means I'll work, cook, clean etc first. But if I haven't hit my goals yet for the day/week I'll write before I start playing video games or grab a book.

If you aren't actively making money from it then it's a hobby. It might be a hobby you can one day turn into something that makes money, but until then treat it as such and do the thing that need to be done. Take your time get better at it and above all else enjoy it right now, because once it does become a job it becomes harder to enjoy.

TheRealAlpha2 really gave a good point.
Important stuff come first, before habits, but if you are looking at it as a future, a way to make money, so you should get your experience by writing more and more, learning from the community, learning from reviews, learning from the internet and cetera. All the while you should still do the other important things but at the same time ya'know  don't leave your entire life for writing.

Keep a schedule, heck if you don't care that much for the Writathon, you can release one chapter a weak and take it in your own pace. 

Salads4Breakfast Wrote: but when i look at the time spent there and the things i should have done but didn't do, i feel really bad.

Like what? Watch TV or cure cancer?

the personal rule is to write as much as I want but only on my free time. for me writing substituted other hobby such as gaming. I'm not sure whether it's worth the time and effort, it depends on one's skills, but I think one should invest time for it to grow. Set a time for like one year or six months and see whether your writing improved to your satisfaction or not. Then you can decide.

If you can see yourself being happy not writing, then be happy not writing. If you need to write to be happy then put that in your list of priorities to be happy and treat it as something that you need rather than want. 

Writers can't not write. It is part of the need for personal actualization. So you need to ask yourself the question, "Can you be happy with your life if you do not write?" Then you will know if writing is something you prioritize or stop doing. If you are a writer then you will have to write to be happy, if you are just someone who doesn't need to write to be happy you will answer the other way. 

Only you are going to know what it takes for you to lead a happy life for yourself. When you figure that out, you will know if continuing writing is a thing you will do. 

All that matters is if it makes you happy. Who cares if you wasted a lot of time, it gave you pleasure to do so. It is no different for any sort of hobby. If you are a bit tight on time however, you can just limit yourself and set aside any free time left over in your day.

If you write something, then you can read it later. Making art that suits your taste and interests is probably worth the time and effort.

I believe in Obsession. Write when you wake up. Write in the shower. Yes, you heard me. Use Siri. Write when you're trying to get dressed, and then forget about dressing. Write in your underwear. Write instead of eat. It's the ultimate diet. Write instead of work. You're boss won't understand, but who cares about your boss when a dragon is about to eat your main character? Write before you go to sleep.

Sleep? What's that? Write, dude. WRITE!

Better yet, get a job where you can write and have someone pay you.  Something that sits you in front of a computer for 10 hours a day, but with very little actual work.  Been working gang busters for me lately.

Salads4Breakfast Wrote: I have been thinking about all the time i had spent writing the few chapters of my story, i really enjoyed it. but when i look at the time spent there and the things i should have done but didn't do, i feel really bad. i really think sometimes that i should just stop writing even when it feels good to do the right things y'know.
can you help me adjust my time and give me advices from your experience...

In the end of the day, almost nothing you do matters. Except for raising kids and taking care of friends and family, everything is rather meaningless. So taking that into account, you mind as well do something which you like. And yes, there's a high % that people won't read it, and nobody really cares about what you/us write. But, because it doesn't really matter, then mind as well. 

The first step to being good is being bad

I stopped doing stuff I don't enjoy, and have been better off for it in nearly every way possible.  I'm several times more productive when I'm just playing at something than when "working" at it.  Of course, I happen to LIKE living on a very low budget....no kids or serious responsibilities here....

Bookhermit Wrote: I stopped doing stuff I don't enjoy, and have been better off for it in nearly every way possible.  I'm several times more productive when I'm just playing at something than when "working" at it.  Of course, I happen to LIKE living on a very low budget....no kids or serious responsibilities here....

One day I woke up and I was happy. I hadn't stopped doing responsible things, like cleaning the bathroom, but I had stopped trying to please other people. And you know, I was a lot more productive, too. Right now I am waiting with bated breath for a reply from an online magazine. I have submitted to them what I consider to be the best short story I've ever written. Even simply thinking about that story makes me happy. Here's to a life filled with freedom and joy!